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The Principles of Effective Communication

18 May 2015 by Rita Jackson

These principles were devised by Alan Sharland of CAOS Conflict Management. They illustrate practical ways in which our communication practice can support the resolution of conflict.

  1. That we treat each other with respect.
  2. That we do not interrupt one another – listening is not agreeing.
  3. That we allow ourselves and others the right to pass.
  4. That we do not volunteer others.
  5. That we speak only for ourselves and speak as “I” not as “we”.
  6. That we speak for ourselves but not too often or for too long.
  7. That we respect confidentiality.
  8. That we challenge behaviour and not the person – labeling the person fails to describe or resolve what happened that led to the problem.
  9. That we acknowledge that it is OK to make mistakes as they are an opportunity to learn

More information about these principles is available in a free booklet for all clients who book a Minerva Mediation Conflict Coaching session and is also available on the CAOS Website.

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About Rita Jackson

Rita Jackson is an experienced mediator, litigation lawyer, and negotiator and has been working with people to resolve legal, personal and financial conflicts for over 25 years. Currently in private practice as a Mediator and Solicitor, Rita is a former senior manager and Solicitor in the Charity Sector. Her professional experience includes working with charities, local authorities and trade unions to resolve employee conflict, working with neighbours, landlords and tenants and families to resolve housing and property disputes, negotiations between debtors and creditors and investigating and resolving consumer complaints.

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